Is it at the time of our birth?
Is it when we first experience the agony of rejection?
Is it when we start to face competition in sports?
Is it when we succumb to the oft-mentioned 'peer pressure'?
Is it when we fall in love with someone?
Is it the first day of a new job?
Is it when we join a family as a new member?
When we relocate to a different city or nation, is this the case?
Is it when we start writing our first book?
I believe it is all of the above; when people have a strong desire to be accepted, they will go to great lengths to achieve their goal.
Athletes and bodybuilders will use drugs in order to win. Winning equals acceptance.
When we fall in love, our entire being craves acceptance from our partner.
Authors will spend countless hours crafting the perfect words to delight their readers, and they will go to tremendous efforts to have their work published.
Whether by marriage or adoption, becoming a new member of a family creates a need to be fostered as someone who truly belongs.
Starting a new job necessitates acceptance; we must blend in so that we may relax and give our all to our work.
Moving to a new nation, city, or even simply a new neighbourhood is difficult for us, and being accepted and fitting in is a crucial part of our adjustment.
Let's not forget about' Peer Pressure.' This is a difficult one, and children just starting high school are the ones who suffer the most from it since their hormones are fluctuating and their emotions are so sensitive. The worries they've been struggling with for the past year are all in front of them, and they've got a lot of reality to cope with. It's more than half the battle for them to fit in and be accepted by their peers.
As a baby, we have a strong need to be accepted and to see our parents smile when we do something nice for them.
For the first time, the pain of rejection hurts like a dagger. It scars us for life, leaving a scar that we will never be able to remove.
All of these concerns, needs, and aspirations are present in everyone who lives and breathes. Some of us have a stronger desire for acceptance than others. Some of us can't live without acceptance; we become consumed with our thoughts, attempting to fit in in whatever way we can.
Do you see the words "self-esteem" anywhere in what I've written today? Yes, and it can be found in every sentence. The demand for acceptance has an impact on our self-esteem, which has an impact on our emotional stability, which is where envy, concern, and anxiety emerge.
Low self-esteem and non-acceptance are like 'another mind,' and you can sense them at battle with each other. It reminds me of the scenario with the good devil and the nasty devil. It is no fun for the one who is enslaved by it; not only do they have to balance the two brains, but they also have the guilt that they feel when they see what the effect of their mental war is doing to those around them. The constant questions that one is confronted with, as in my blog FEELINGS!!!!, add to the already lonely and tortured person's suffering.
So, if you know someone who suffers from non-acceptance or poor self-esteem, hug them and try to realise that they aren't having a picnic, and that if simply saying "stop it" or "just don't think about it" could stop it, they would do so in a heartbeat. To get past our lows, we all need support and acceptance. When someone is down, kicking them does not help them get up.
I'm doing everything I can, through my website and blog, to educate others and help them realise what low self-esteem is and how dangerous it can be. Please contact me or leave a comment if you have any questions, and I will do my best to respond.
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